llama. Giro. Dongle. Gypsum. 

Strange sounding words make me giggle. Words make us laugh but some make us cry. How often do we say one thing and someone reacts completely opposite to what we expect? Then we discover our message was not received with the intentions we assumed. 

Words communicate emotion, direction, facts, stories and more. It is imperative that we use them with care. Words can build a relationship, or they can destroy us to the core. Words are a gift from God. Use them wisely. 

Every day we reveal who we are by our words. Effective communication describes what we are trying to express. Our word choice, tone, or body language can muddle the information we want to deliver. 

Learning to understand another person’s motives for communicating with you helps to grow strong, healthy relationships. When you hear something that doesn’t sound right, be sure to confirm what you heard or didn’t hear before acting on it. 

My husband and I both have difficulty hearing. We have made it a purposeful habit to check in with the other when something sounds a bit quirky. We’ve made an agreement to always assume that our communication comes from a place of love for the other and never from harm. Operating from that belief, we quickly clear up misunderstandings. 

Keeping short accounts in your relationship makes communication much easier too. When someone does say something that is offensive or hurts a bit, in a gently way, let them know immediately. You can avoid a lot of heartaches. 

Recently, we discovered a man we had talked to about doing business together believed we had hard feelings against him. The business deal didn’t work out.  It was several years ago, my husband and I never had any ill will toward the gentleman. If only he had approached us long ago, we could have easily assured him that we had absolutely no hard feelings.   

Work to build a reputation and strive to be approachable. When we are approachable, it makes working things out much easier. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone that you feel didn’t understand you or the situation. Yes, sometimes it is hard to do, however; avoiding the elephant in the room every time you see each other gets exhausting. 

Addressing a conflict head-on allows both individuals an opportunity to clear the air and begin to operate in unity. Make great communication a priority. You can do it! 

My advice: when you think you heard something unkind or it didn’t make sense, always err on the side of grace and give the person the benefit of the doubt. In our era of digital communication (texting, social media, and emails), even with emojis, sometimes we miss the mark and unexpectedly harm with our words.  

Bumfuzzle, Cattywampus, and Gardyloo just a few more words that are fun to say! 


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