Core Principles of Extraordinary Relationship Series 

Be Positive 

The core of any extraordinary relationship has basic principles of honesty, kindness, forgiveness, encouragement, and more. Every relationship includes negative and positive parts. Extraordinary relationships accentuate the positive and display mercy for the negative about their loved one. 

Often people concentrate on the negative instead of the positive in situations. Negative thinking only makes things harder, uglier, and more stressful. I don’t know about you, but I would much rather have a great experience rather than one that isn’t. 

Here is a practical step you can take to see what you are focusing on. Pretend your hands are binoculars and look through them. Heidi Klum on America’s Got Talent tv show would do this when she wanted to focus her attention on something. It looks funny but it works. Look through your hands as you create circles with both of them. 

Look around. What do you see? Can you see the entirety of your house or just a pin focused view? You probably see chores not done yet and pictures of your family and friends on the fridge. Which would you rather look at? This trick can be used to see good or evil. You choose what captures your attention. 

Now, look through your imaginary binoculars and look at your loved one, the one you chose as a mate for life. What do you see? Positive or negative points? Yes, we all have flaws and things we can work on, but is that what you see or think about when your loved one comes to mind? If so, I know how you can change that. 

Just Stop! That’s right. Just stop being negative. Be a hero and show your family how to look on the bright side of things. The Bible tells us, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Eph 4:8 ESV 

Thinking, focusing, and concentrating on the positive is your Superpower! If you want to be the hero in your relationship use your superpower every day, all the time.  

My Advice: 

If you want to change from an ordinary relationship to an extra-ordinary one, be a leader and seek goodness, love, truth, honor, excellence within your mate and focus on the positive! You’ll be glad you did! 


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